build: add ninja build tool and make it available for cmake

build: add ninja build tool and make it available for cmake

ninja is faster at building cmake packages than make, and according to reports
also more reliable at handling parallel builds
This commit includes a patch that adds GNU make jobserver support, in order to
allow more precise control over the number of parallel tasks

Enable parallel build by default for packages using ninja

Signed-off-by: Felix Fietkau <nbd@nbd.name>
Signed-off-by: Rosen Penev <rosenp@gmail.com>